After all relationships had sell-by dates. Sometimes, the ones with the most passion were the ones to burn out faster. Others had a sweet and long-winding coil which burned with slow amicability. At times, it was true, people rekindled a dying ember with a new flame. But they hardly ever noticed the rekindling had come after some time of estrangement - whether physical or emotional. Because people needed newness to make a thing last indefinitely. To make it really last. And because Jan didn't like letting people go, she knew to look for the signs of love's waning. So she could tell how to ease it down slowly into its grave and keep her lovers as friends. Because she really believed people were meant to cross paths. People were meant to stay in your life. There was a reason for all encounters. And relationships had to be cosseted, no matter their shelf life. But they had to be allowed to change shape and form. It had to be given space to grow into something different.Adelheid Manefeldt
About This Quote
This quote focuses on the longevity of a relationship. Jan has learned that in order to keep people around you, you must give them space to grow and mature. An example of this is when Jan gave her lovers space to grow and mature into something different. As she said, “People were meant to cross paths.
People were meant to stay in your life.” She has also found that keeping people around you for years after they have lost their lust for each other is possible. Sometimes, the love between two people may not be strong enough to hold them together forever, but both partners can agree to keep the relationship alive. If one person becomes uncomfortable with the relationship, they will always find a way to break it off without any problems.
Source: Consequence
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